Comments on: Taking Off Hijab Syndrome http://egyptiangumbo.com/taking-off-hijab-syndrome-99.htm Sun, 29 Jan 2012 23:27:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: LJ http://egyptiangumbo.com/taking-off-hijab-syndrome-99.htm/comment-page-1#comment-105969 LJ Tue, 21 Dec 2010 08:30:32 +0000 http://egyptiangumbo.com/?p=99#comment-105969 I am back - and wanted to share that I have gone through the thought process and keeping my hijab. It was very silly to even think of taking it off, after Allah bestowed me with this responsibility and help to keep walking straight, I am dishing all of that away for worldly success, whatever it is. My goal is to be successful as a muslim woman and be known as such. The rest, I will let Allah decide on The day of Judgement. Rabena yesabetna koulena ISA. I am back – and wanted to share that I have gone through the thought process and keeping my hijab. It was very silly to even think of taking it off, after Allah bestowed me with this responsibility and help to keep walking straight, I am dishing all of that away for worldly success, whatever it is.

My goal is to be successful as a muslim woman and be known as such. The rest, I will let Allah decide on The day of Judgement. Rabena yesabetna koulena ISA.

]]> By: Eman Emanniya http://egyptiangumbo.com/taking-off-hijab-syndrome-99.htm/comment-page-1#comment-105861 Eman Emanniya Mon, 20 Dec 2010 19:03:00 +0000 http://egyptiangumbo.com/?p=99#comment-105861 Oh my dear sisters, I am so glad i have found all these disscussions, they have helped me step back and remember what is really important in this life and what is mere temptation. I am 19 years old living in the states. Of my everyday friends I am the only one who wears hijab. At times the fleeting thought that perphaps I can remove it and wear it at a later time crosses my mind more and more with in a day. I think to myself that I can remove it to enjoy my youth, (like going to the beach, doing all the outdoor things i love to do.) That I would look so "hot" or "cute". And I get lost in a selfish fantasy of all the what it could be like if i didn't cover. But then I remember that those are all excuses. They are self-made justifications for that itch I have of removing my Hjab. I can be the loudest one in my group at my college, with my friends. I am usually the only one in the water at the beach. I'm usually the one wearing the most outrageous colors and sparkly shirts... All in hijab. So, my dear sisters don't categorize the hijab as a barrier that will keep you from accomplishing what you dream of. Don't blame hijab for you not getting that job. And don't blame hijab for those horrible racist comments or prejudices that you face. Don't use the excuse that the Hijab will build a social barrier between you and your colleagues. In all honesty you have the power within you to accomplish whatever you desire. And I know that if you wear hijab for the sake of Allah, he will only make your efforts in reaching your goals easier. This life is a test, and its a hard one. Today I almost failed. I almost gave into those thoughts from shaytan to leave my house without my hijab. But I found this article with all these reminders, opinions of others, and examples that reminded me, "Do it for Allah, its the right thing to do". I personlly believe that a woman wearing hijab in this day and age is far more stronger and brave then all the women who don't. We believe and something and we are striving for something that is far bigger than the joys of this life. This temporary life. We shouldn't forget why we are here. This life is only temporary, so make the best of it in the way that Allah has prescribed for you. Because that is the best way. Who knows what's better for the creations (mankind), other than the creator (Allah)? So if you lost my point, its Don't fear man, Fear Allah. Take Hijab and embrace it. Nothing will hold you back but yourself. Besides Allah gots your back. Thats the best guarantee in the whole universe. Oh my dear sisters,
I am so glad i have found all these disscussions, they have helped me step back and remember what is really important in this life and what is mere temptation.
I am 19 years old living in the states. Of my everyday friends I am the only one who wears hijab. At times the fleeting thought that perphaps I can remove it and wear it at a later time crosses my mind more and more with in a day.
I think to myself that I can remove it to enjoy my youth, (like going to the beach, doing all the outdoor things i love to do.) That I would look so “hot” or “cute”.
And I get lost in a selfish fantasy of all the what it could be like if i didn’t cover.
But then I remember that those are all excuses. They are self-made justifications for that itch I have of removing my Hjab.
I can be the loudest one in my group at my college, with my friends. I am usually the only one in the water at the beach. I’m usually the one wearing the most outrageous colors and sparkly shirts… All in hijab.
So, my dear sisters don’t categorize the hijab as a barrier that will keep you from accomplishing what you dream of. Don’t blame hijab for you not getting that job. And don’t blame hijab for those horrible racist comments or prejudices that you face.
Don’t use the excuse that the Hijab will build a social barrier between you and your colleagues.
In all honesty you have the power within you to accomplish whatever you desire. And I know that if you wear hijab for the sake of Allah, he will only make your efforts in reaching your goals easier.
This life is a test, and its a hard one. Today I almost failed. I almost gave into those thoughts from shaytan to leave my house without my hijab.
But I found this article with all these reminders, opinions of others, and examples that reminded me, “Do it for Allah, its the right thing to do”.
I personlly believe that a woman wearing hijab in this day and age is far more stronger and brave then all the women who don’t.
We believe and something and we are striving for something that is far bigger than the joys of this life. This temporary life. We shouldn’t forget why we are here.
This life is only temporary, so make the best of it in the way that Allah has prescribed for you. Because that is the best way.
Who knows what’s better for the creations (mankind), other than the creator (Allah)?
So if you lost my point, its Don’t fear man, Fear Allah. Take Hijab and embrace it. Nothing will hold you back but yourself.
Besides Allah gots your back. Thats the best guarantee in the whole universe.

]]> By: LJ http://egyptiangumbo.com/taking-off-hijab-syndrome-99.htm/comment-page-1#comment-105004 LJ Fri, 17 Dec 2010 08:30:03 +0000 http://egyptiangumbo.com/?p=99#comment-105004 First a brief about myself: Converted to islam about 10 years ago, living in Egypt, married with 2 kids and veiled. Current status: Deciding to either keep to take the veil off I wore my veil soon after converting with full conviction that this was the right thing to do, not only because it was fard but also, coming from a non-veiled life, I knew the need to wearing clothes that was more covering to be respectable. Over the years, I re-evaluated the reasons of wearing the Hijab, being a convert, one of the things i love in being a muslim is that Allah orders me to use my brain. Not to be a follower but an innovator. My views as to why the veil was needed for a muslim woman started changing. I think the decision to wear or take off the veil is very personal, not all of us will think of it the same way but it will be wrong to say that anyone who takes it off is a sinner. Points that i am still thinking about: 1. A lot of the Quran language and writings come from a time when, the region was very hot, women were viewed as object and traded. For the verse to have been bestowed upon Prophet Muhhammad (PBUH), it happened at the right time to strengthen his battle against injustice with women at that time. Is that applicable now? 2. Many of the opinions of the different mazaheb changed over the centuries to adapt to imminent changes in world politics, evolving global issues ...etc. For example, zakat el fitr, was initially obligated to be paid in the grains for many years and all the 4 mazaheb agree to it and followed it for centuries and now we pay money as this is how this matter has evolved. Does that make us sinners that we are not paying our zakat in grains? Same for lands, The Prophet (PBUH) ordained that anyone who see a piece of empty land could claim his, all the mazahebs agreed that this is applicable, but not done these days, does that make us bad muslims... and the list goes on. 3. Based on the previous 2 points, then if we live in a world where wearing the Hijab makes you a primary terrorist suspect - and NO muslim is making anything to change our image to the western world but contrary making it worse by our foolish emotional reactions to any issues. OR stop you from studying or growing and being a recognized educated person GLOBALLY! As it is primitive to talk at the country's level at this stage since we are approaching a global village status. Sometimes people ask, why we don't have strong muslim women in the world, ever thought it might be because of the hijab. 4. Now, do not get me wrong, I am not saying Hijab is not in our religion more than saying that shouldn't we evolve within our religion. THE REASON why we, muslim women, are not doing what our religion tells us to, IQRA and set the example, is not longer beause of the limitations of the hijab. It is because of an ALREADY prejudiced image that 9/11 and other ongoing events has confirmed to the world. Now even before having a chance to compete, we are being dismissed because of our veil. 5. Question is, Am I willing to give up the chance of making a difference to the world for my veil? That's where i stopped. Now, making a difference to the world, is to allow people to know ME as a muslim and respect, learn. When they see our Hijab, that's what they see, and will not listen to you, or at least majority these days. Contrary to the idea of I have to make the people accept who I am, we are to an age where we have to make efforts to let people know what REAL Islam is about. Allah knows all intention, mine is to show the world that Islam is the best religion and my Hijab is not helping. Being smart, successful, having ideas, fight for a reason and last making history, that LJ, a muslim was the first one to... 6. Will Allah be happier of me because I reached, spread and changed the views of many people of what muslims are like or judge me on the fact that i took off the Hijab to do that. 7. To my real saddness, I have seen people who took off their veil with the understanding that it gives you the freedom to wear outrageous clothes. Not covering your hair, does not mean that you have to be indecent. So, for most of you in this discussion who associated removing the veil as a resistance to Allah's commands, it is to a certain extent correct, when you think of what happens after taking off the veil. On the other hand, i know very decend people without veils and have changed the world for the best and for sure Allah has good rewards for them. Conclusion: I am still thinking about it, I have lots of interaction with people outside the middle-east which places me in an awkward position to fight for all the muslims each time i talk to one of them, just because i am veiled. What if their admiration for my honesty, loyalty and hard work translates to me being a muslim, compared to "take that, I am veiled" and end of story. What does being a muslim mean? To pray and stay in our world Isn't it one of our duties to spread our religion What happens if your intentions are nobel but you are taking a bold way to make it happen Between me and Allah, I have prayed Istikhara for him to show me the right way. At the end of the day, he will judge me for what i did and no one else. Your thoughts are welcome - PS: Sherine - Though hijab is not one of the 5 pillars of Islam, we were it as a fard, do you have other reasons why YOU wear it. It might help. First a brief about myself: Converted to islam about 10 years ago, living in Egypt, married with 2 kids and veiled.
Current status: Deciding to either keep to take the veil off
I wore my veil soon after converting with full conviction that this was the right thing to do, not only because it was fard but also, coming from a non-veiled life, I knew the need to wearing clothes that was more covering to be respectable.

Over the years, I re-evaluated the reasons of wearing the Hijab, being a convert, one of the things i love in being a muslim is that Allah orders me to use my brain. Not to be a follower but an innovator. My views as to why the veil was needed for a muslim woman started changing.

I think the decision to wear or take off the veil is very personal, not all of us will think of it the same way but it will be wrong to say that anyone who takes it off is a sinner.

Points that i am still thinking about:
1. A lot of the Quran language and writings come from a time when, the region was very hot, women were viewed as object and traded. For the verse to have been bestowed upon Prophet Muhhammad (PBUH), it happened at the right time to strengthen his battle against injustice with women at that time. Is that applicable now?

2. Many of the opinions of the different mazaheb changed over the centuries to adapt to imminent changes in world politics, evolving global issues …etc. For example, zakat el fitr, was initially obligated to be paid in the grains for many years and all the 4 mazaheb agree to it and followed it for centuries and now we pay money as this is how this matter has evolved. Does that make us sinners that we are not paying our zakat in grains? Same for lands, The Prophet (PBUH) ordained that anyone who see a piece of empty land could claim his, all the mazahebs agreed that this is applicable, but not done these days, does that make us bad muslims… and the list goes on.

3. Based on the previous 2 points, then if we live in a world where wearing the Hijab makes you a primary terrorist suspect – and NO muslim is making anything to change our image to the western world but contrary making it worse by our foolish emotional reactions to any issues. OR stop you from studying or growing and being a recognized educated person GLOBALLY! As it is primitive to talk at the country’s level at this stage since we are approaching a global village status. Sometimes people ask, why we don’t have strong muslim women in the world, ever thought it might be because of the hijab.

4. Now, do not get me wrong, I am not saying Hijab is not in our religion more than saying that shouldn’t we evolve within our religion. THE REASON why we, muslim women, are not doing what our religion tells us to, IQRA and set the example, is not longer beause of the limitations of the hijab. It is because of an ALREADY prejudiced image that 9/11 and other ongoing events has confirmed to the world. Now even before having a chance to compete, we are being dismissed because of our veil.

5. Question is, Am I willing to give up the chance of making a difference to the world for my veil? That’s where i stopped. Now, making a difference to the world, is to allow people to know ME as a muslim and respect, learn. When they see our Hijab, that’s what they see, and will not listen to you, or at least majority these days. Contrary to the idea of I have to make the people accept who I am, we are to an age where we have to make efforts to let people know what REAL Islam is about. Allah knows all intention, mine is to show the world that Islam is the best religion and my Hijab is not helping. Being smart, successful, having ideas, fight for a reason and last making history, that LJ, a muslim was the first one to…

6. Will Allah be happier of me because I reached, spread and changed the views of many people of what muslims are like or judge me on the fact that i took off the Hijab to do that.

7. To my real saddness, I have seen people who took off their veil with the understanding that it gives you the freedom to wear outrageous clothes. Not covering your hair, does not mean that you have to be indecent. So, for most of you in this discussion who associated removing the veil as a resistance to Allah’s commands, it is to a certain extent correct, when you think of what happens after taking off the veil. On the other hand, i know very decend people without veils and have changed the world for the best and for sure Allah has good rewards for them.

Conclusion:
I am still thinking about it, I have lots of interaction with people outside the middle-east which places me in an awkward position to fight for all the muslims each time i talk to one of them, just because i am veiled. What if their admiration for my honesty, loyalty and hard work translates to me being a muslim, compared to “take that, I am veiled” and end of story.

What does being a muslim mean? To pray and stay in our world
Isn’t it one of our duties to spread our religion
What happens if your intentions are nobel but you are taking a bold way to make it happen
Between me and Allah, I have prayed Istikhara for him to show me the right way. At the end of the day, he will judge me for what i did and no one else.

Your thoughts are welcome –

PS: Sherine – Though hijab is not one of the 5 pillars of Islam, we were it as a fard, do you have other reasons why YOU wear it. It might help.

]]> By: shockstick http://egyptiangumbo.com/taking-off-hijab-syndrome-99.htm/comment-page-1#comment-94462 shockstick Thu, 04 Nov 2010 16:25:29 +0000 http://egyptiangumbo.com/?p=99#comment-94462 I am a hijaabi girl too...read the comments and articles and was quite impressed about peopl's positive opinions.. i am a university student and i had been wearing my head cover since 2years ALHAMDULLAH.....and the decision was my own...my parents are really understanding and they had never forced me to do stuff related to religion...... i love my head scarf and was proud to start it....no one in my family does it....and so my mom ws shocked too wen i strted it...but however i have strted to face many problemss as im coming close to the true colours of the world....people just luk upon hijabi women as backwards and bullshit..but they actually do not no the reason of wearing hijab is modesty..being modestt.... my problem is tht i had been facing problems in getting jobs as i wear hijab....i personallyyy never want to take it off my hijab forever but i have recently started to remove for eventsss and stuff like tht...it ws really awkward for me to do it...my parents do not want me to go to the xtreme sideee...they just tell me to be moderate but the guilt of removing my hijab is making me think about loadss of things wheras inoo tht ALLAH knows the intentions plus im the only one daughter and have to go ahead in my career for the good future of my parents...and so i sumtimes tend to loose confidence but yet have STRONG FAITH on ALLAH....whereas i m really modest with other stuff..i do know my limits with men and have never been in anykind of relationship cz i donot believe in bf/gf thing... ..ill be very grateful to all of you if any1 could suggest me the right thing and help me out to get out of this guilt... i pray to ALLAh for providing me with a job in which i donot need to remove my head scarf..but my mum tells me to to remove it for events and partiess.....but yeas i m personally wiling to never take it off for my whole life...i love my hijab and im proud of it...help me out with this plzzzzz... MAY ALLAh give hidaya to all the muslims of the world..AMEEN!!!! I am a hijaabi girl too…read the comments and articles and was quite impressed about peopl’s positive opinions..
i am a university student and i had been wearing my head cover since 2years ALHAMDULLAH…..and the decision was my own…my parents are really understanding and they had never forced me to do stuff related to religion……
i love my head scarf and was proud to start it….no one in my family does it….and so my mom ws shocked too wen i strted it…but however i have strted to face many problemss as im coming close to the true colours of the world….people just luk upon hijabi women as backwards and bullshit..but they actually do not no the reason of wearing hijab is modesty..being modestt…. my problem is tht i had been facing problems in getting jobs as i wear hijab….i personallyyy never want to take it off my hijab forever but i have recently started to remove for eventsss and stuff like tht…it ws really awkward for me to do it…my parents do not want me to go to the xtreme sideee…they just tell me to be moderate but the guilt of removing my hijab is making me think about loadss of things wheras inoo tht ALLAH knows the intentions plus im the only one daughter and have to go ahead in my career for the good future of my parents…and so i sumtimes tend to loose confidence but yet have STRONG FAITH on ALLAH….whereas i m really modest with other stuff..i do know my limits with men and have never been in anykind of relationship cz i donot believe in bf/gf thing… ..ill be very grateful to all of you if any1 could suggest me the right thing and help me out to get out of this guilt…
i pray to ALLAh for providing me with a job in which i donot need to remove my head scarf..but my mum tells me to to remove it for events and partiess…..but yeas i m personally wiling to never take it off for my whole life…i love my hijab and im proud of it…help me out with this plzzzzz…
MAY ALLAh give hidaya to all the muslims of the world..AMEEN!!!!

]]> By: samina http://egyptiangumbo.com/taking-off-hijab-syndrome-99.htm/comment-page-1#comment-83264 samina Fri, 17 Sep 2010 01:29:52 +0000 http://egyptiangumbo.com/?p=99#comment-83264 Asalam Aleykum , Ive been finding this topic on the net for a while. I started wearing the hijab about 5 months ago, i was watching some islamic talks on youtube and i just got a sudden rush of realization about wearing the hijab the next day i started adorning the hijab and ive struggled over them periods but ive not once taken it off ive remained with it and when i felt weak i just thought back to why i wore it and that always did the trick and reinforced my belief , but just recently that doesn't seem to be working I am the same person as i was when i didn't wear a hijab it hasn't changed me , Im not saying im perfect but i like to see myself as a good muslimah who dresses modestly and carries herself respectfully. It recently ive struggled my hearts nto in it anymore and im starting to think i wore the hijab without concidering what i was about to do and the seriousness of it. I believe its more important too perfect ones heart and belief and character before taking such a step becuase the hijab is a symbol of Islam and once i wear it i want to wear it for the rest of my life and not have a seconds douubt like i am now. Can someone please help me on this .... Asalam Aleykum , Ive been finding this topic on the net for a while. I started wearing the hijab about 5 months ago, i was watching some islamic talks on youtube and i just got a sudden rush of realization about wearing the hijab the next day i started adorning the hijab and ive struggled over them periods but ive not once taken it off ive remained with it and when i felt weak i just thought back to why i wore it and that always did the trick and reinforced my belief , but just recently that doesn’t seem to be working I am the same person as i was when i didn’t wear a hijab it hasn’t changed me , Im not saying im perfect but i like to see myself as a good muslimah who dresses modestly and carries herself respectfully. It recently ive struggled my hearts nto in it anymore and im starting to think i wore the hijab without concidering what i was about to do and the seriousness of it. I believe its more important too perfect ones heart and belief and character before taking such a step becuase the hijab is a symbol of Islam and once i wear it i want to wear it for the rest of my life and not have a seconds douubt like i am now. Can someone please help me on this ….

]]> By: Ami http://egyptiangumbo.com/taking-off-hijab-syndrome-99.htm/comment-page-1#comment-82187 Ami Sun, 12 Sep 2010 01:43:15 +0000 http://egyptiangumbo.com/?p=99#comment-82187 Assalamou aleykoum, I think BTK was talking about my life. I am in the same exact situation. My marriage was not that great but we were working it out. I have been married with my husband for about 3years. 4 months after I put the hijab he left the house for a month now but he comes to pick up his child. We are not divorced yet but we are seperated and he is not assisting me financially. I am working from home and living off of my savings for now but sooner or later I need to go find a job in my career after graduation insha Allah. Since I live in the US I know there will be lot of discriminations toward me when i will look for a job. The sacary thing is I have to support my family back home and my son. My question is: is hijab really required? Is is just an arabic tradition? Because right now I do not have the luxery and the choice to observe a tradition.Plus I see lot of Iman's wives who are not wearing hijab. Now I am at the point that I feel ashamed to take it off which is not a good way to wear hijab. I am realy confused. Please I need a very good answer. thank you very much. And I do not need rude answer because I am down already. A very confused sister Assalamou aleykoum, I think BTK was talking about my life. I am in the same exact situation. My marriage was not that great but we were working it out. I have been married with my husband for about 3years. 4 months after I put the hijab he left the house for a month now but he comes to pick up his child. We are not divorced yet but we are seperated and he is not assisting me financially. I am working from home and living off of my savings for now but sooner or later I need to go find a job in my career after graduation insha Allah. Since I live in the US I know there will be lot of discriminations toward me when i will look for a job. The sacary thing is I have to support my family back home and my son. My question is: is hijab really required? Is is just an arabic tradition? Because right now I do not have the luxery and the choice to observe a tradition.Plus I see lot of Iman’s wives who are not wearing hijab. Now I am at the point that I feel ashamed to take it off which is not a good way to wear hijab. I am realy confused. Please I need a very good answer. thank you very much. And I do not need rude answer because I am down already.

A very confused sister

]]> By: Ehtisham http://egyptiangumbo.com/taking-off-hijab-syndrome-99.htm/comment-page-1#comment-62028 Ehtisham Tue, 04 May 2010 14:39:49 +0000 http://egyptiangumbo.com/?p=99#comment-62028 Asalamolaikum warahmatullah just wanted to say something to the sisters. You see more and more women now want to take hijab off because they cant get married or they think that no guy will marry them because they wear the hijab. Well my question to those women is that What kind of a guy are you looking for anyway. Humdulilah i am a practicing muslim and I want to marry a Hijabi that wears the hijab properly, not with half of her hair sticking out or her face coverd with layers of makeup. I want to marry a women that is modest. A women who hasnt had a boyfreind before. But if i want that then i have to do the same. I will never have a girl freind because i dont want the women who i marry to have a boy freind. The women i want to marry should have a hijab on and it should be her choice. Hijab is symbolic for a practicing muslimah. its obvious what a women really is from her actions and how she dresses. I am not a guy who would marry a hijabi and then look at women who wears a short skirt in the street. Allah (swt) has instructed me to lower my gaze and that inshallah i will do for the rest of my life. so whats the point? am i advertising my self no my point is that a religous muslim would only want to marry a hijabi that is practicing and i am not even religious, i am a normal muslim and i want to marry a hijabi so imagine what type of women religious men would like to marry. but if you decide to take your hijab off people who are religious and pray to allah would not look at you The only people that you will be able to attract and marry will be guys who have had previous relations or that flirt with women and do not follow the Quran and sunnah What does a normal everyday guy want? Beautiful body and face Would that relationship last forever? No Would everyday guy marry Hijabi? No. Why? because its old and only women from the 7th century would wear it. well thats what they think!!! btw everyday guy doesnt mean a average looking person it means everyperson that is anything but religious You have to realise the guys that would be attracted to you without your hijab are not meant for you There are many men who are willing only to marry a hijabi women You know why? because a Hijabi is a muslim that goes through alot of tests in her life She gets stares and frowns from the public speacially western people. But thats exactly what makes Hijabis so special. There amazing ability of patience and keeping themselves pure and religious. What differentiates a hijabi from a normal girl? A hijabi knows how to respect her self as well as others. She doesnt waste her beauty by showing of her body but she covers herself up and obeys Allah What did the Rasul salalahualihiwasalam say you should get married to?(to men) The Holy Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "A man marries a woman for four reasons: for her property, for her rank, for her beauty, and for her religion (and character). So marry the one who is best in the religion and character and prosper". ( Marriage quotation from Bukhari and Muslim) And ever since i saw this hadith ive only wanted to marry a hijabi Are only the women who wear hijab religious? cant you not wear hijab and still be religious? In my opinion No Why? Look at men, the religous ones have beard ryt but hold on a second The Quran says follow the messenger but it doesnt say anything about having a beard even after 911 men who take religion seriously and sincerely still keep there beards so my question to those women who say quran has only two or three verses about hijab is that you have obligation from Allah to wear the Hijab through Quran the most authentic book yet you say you can be religious and not wear the hijab even though it is prescribed for you? The men keep a beard and it doesnt make us look attractvie and its not even obligatory its Wajib. Yet there are many men with beards. Infact i have a beard and i am gonna keep it. Allah is most just and if you pray to Allah you shall get a partner that is religous and loves you for your hijab and your modesty and you personality and not you body and face asalamolaikum Btw Ehtisham in Arabic means `cover up` or modesty Asalamolaikum warahmatullah
just wanted to say something to the sisters.
You see more and more women now want to take hijab off because they cant get
married or they think that no guy will marry them because they wear the hijab.
Well my question to those women is that
What kind of a guy are you looking for anyway.
Humdulilah i am a practicing muslim and I want to marry a Hijabi that wears
the hijab properly, not with half of her hair sticking out or her face coverd
with layers of makeup. I want to marry a women that is modest. A women who hasnt had a boyfreind before.
But if i want that then i have to do the same. I will never have a girl freind because i dont want the women who i marry
to have a boy freind.
The women i want to marry should have a hijab on and it should be her choice. Hijab is symbolic for a practicing muslimah. its obvious what a women really is from her actions and how she dresses. I am not a guy who would marry a hijabi and then look at women who wears a short skirt in the street. Allah (swt) has instructed me to lower my gaze and that inshallah i will do for the rest of my life.

so whats the point?
am i advertising my self

no my point is that a religous muslim would only want to marry a hijabi that is practicing
and i am not even religious, i am a normal muslim and i want to marry a hijabi so imagine
what type of women religious men would like to marry.

but if you decide to take your hijab off people who are religious and pray to allah would not look at you
The only people that you will be able to attract and marry will be guys
who have had previous relations
or that flirt with women and do not follow the Quran and sunnah

What does a normal everyday guy want?

Beautiful body and face

Would that relationship last forever?

No

Would everyday guy marry Hijabi?
No. Why? because its old and only women from the 7th century would wear it.
well thats what they think!!!
btw everyday guy doesnt mean a average looking person it means everyperson that is anything but religious

You have to realise the guys that would be attracted to you without your hijab are not meant for you
There are many men who are willing only to marry a hijabi women
You know why?

because a Hijabi is a muslim that goes through alot of tests in her life
She gets stares and frowns from the public speacially western people. But thats exactly what makes
Hijabis so special.
There amazing ability of patience and keeping themselves pure
and religious.
What differentiates a hijabi from a normal girl?
A hijabi knows how to respect her self as well as others. She doesnt waste her beauty by showing of her
body but she covers herself up and obeys Allah

What did the Rasul salalahualihiwasalam say you should get married to?(to men)

The Holy Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

“A man marries a woman for four reasons: for her property, for her rank, for her beauty, and for her religion (and character). So marry the one who is best in the religion and character and prosper”.

( Marriage quotation from Bukhari and Muslim)

And ever since i saw this hadith ive only wanted to marry a hijabi

Are only the women who wear hijab religious? cant you not wear hijab and still be religious?

In my opinion
No

Why?
Look at men, the religous ones have beard ryt
but hold on a second
The Quran says follow the messenger but it doesnt say anything about having a beard
even after 911 men who take religion seriously and sincerely still keep there beards
so my question to those women who say quran has only two or three verses about hijab is
that you have obligation from Allah to wear the Hijab through Quran the most authentic book
yet you say you can be religious and not wear the hijab even though it is prescribed for you?
The men keep a beard and it doesnt make us look attractvie and its not even obligatory
its Wajib. Yet there are many men with beards. Infact i have a beard and i am gonna keep it.

Allah is most just and if you pray to Allah you shall get a partner
that is religous and loves you for your hijab and your modesty and you personality and not you body and face

asalamolaikum

Btw Ehtisham in Arabic means `cover up` or modesty

]]> By: ameena http://egyptiangumbo.com/taking-off-hijab-syndrome-99.htm/comment-page-1#comment-54281 ameena Fri, 26 Mar 2010 17:00:07 +0000 http://egyptiangumbo.com/?p=99#comment-54281 Salam alykium to all. I would like to make a comment regarding this issue. I believe that when people choose to take off there hijab they use 1001 excuses it to tak it off. Yes, it is there choice and they always say that it is between them and Allah. Matter of fact everysingle thing we do is between you and Allah. The attention that will be brought to them will be negative to all the people that believe in Hijab and the people that dont follow it or believe it will always welcoming to them and positive answer to them. We are here as slaves of Allah and that is the only reason that we are here. So,anyone can make what ever excuse they want and say it is no ones buisness and this might be true however,the people that really push you to keep it on or put it on is the people that really love you and fear what Allah says in the Quran. Many people will justify that this is not true by saying we cant judge them.When in reality inside themselves they say that because they dont believe in wearing hijab because they don t wear it. A statement will be given out loud or in secret to themselves about a person that has taken it off. I like to conclude and say... sisters be real to yourselves before you make a decision of putting it on or taken off.Because even if you see it or not you are not respecting ALLAH........And in the day of judgement your excues will be heard however you will still be punished because we disobeyed. salam alykium Salam alykium to all. I would like to make a comment regarding this issue. I believe that when people choose to take off there hijab they use 1001 excuses it to tak it off. Yes, it is there choice and they always say that it is between them and Allah. Matter of fact everysingle thing we do is between you and Allah. The attention that will be brought to them will be negative to all the people that believe in Hijab and the people that dont follow it or believe it will always welcoming to them and positive answer to them. We are here as slaves of Allah and that is the only reason that we are here. So,anyone can make what ever excuse they want and say it is no ones buisness and this might be true however,the people that really push you to keep it on or put it on is the people that really love you and fear what Allah says in the Quran. Many people will justify that this is not true by saying we cant judge them.When in reality inside themselves they say that because they dont believe in wearing hijab because they don t wear it. A statement will be given out loud or in secret to themselves about a person that has taken it off. I like to conclude and say… sisters be real to yourselves before you make a decision of putting it on or taken off.Because even if you see it or not you are not respecting ALLAH……..And in the day of judgement your excues will be heard however you will still be punished because we disobeyed.

salam alykium

]]> By: Dwana Heckers http://egyptiangumbo.com/taking-off-hijab-syndrome-99.htm/comment-page-1#comment-51318 Dwana Heckers Wed, 10 Mar 2010 11:36:17 +0000 http://egyptiangumbo.com/?p=99#comment-51318 Been researching for web pages for such stuff , thanks Been researching for web pages for such stuff , thanks

]]> By: Alima http://egyptiangumbo.com/taking-off-hijab-syndrome-99.htm/comment-page-1#comment-38004 Alima Fri, 11 Dec 2009 19:31:47 +0000 http://egyptiangumbo.com/?p=99#comment-38004 Salaam 'alaykum, @ Max First pray your well inshaAllah. I just wanted to say, if your taking off your hijaab because you wore it for the wrong intentions, then why not correct your intention now and keep the hijaab on, as it pleasing to Allah and that's the ONLY reason your wearing it. Isn't this better? Also, keeping in mind the hijaab is only in front of non-mahrem guys, so you don't have to wear it at home or in front of the girls anyway. Looking at it in a deeper sense, you can see this as a test and passing it as your point B, your step to paradise, it's in view and it depends if your willing to be patience get that reward from Allah 'azza wa jal. And Allah knows Best. Salaam ‘alaykum,

@ Max

First pray your well inshaAllah. I just wanted to say, if your taking off your hijaab because you wore it for the wrong intentions, then why not correct your intention now and keep the hijaab on, as it pleasing to Allah and that’s the ONLY reason your wearing it.

Isn’t this better? Also, keeping in mind the hijaab is only in front of non-mahrem guys, so you don’t have to wear it at home or in front of the girls anyway.

Looking at it in a deeper sense, you can see this as a test and passing it as your point B, your step to paradise, it’s in view and it depends if your willing to be patience get that reward from Allah ‘azza wa jal.

And Allah knows Best.

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