Comments on: Taking Off Hijab Syndrome http://egyptiangumbo.com/taking-off-hijab-syndrome-99.htm Wed, 08 Sep 2010 15:42:46 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.1 hourly 1 By: Ehtisham http://egyptiangumbo.com/taking-off-hijab-syndrome-99.htm/comment-page-1#comment-62028 Ehtisham Tue, 04 May 2010 14:39:49 +0000 http://egyptiangumbo.com/?p=99#comment-62028 Asalamolaikum warahmatullah just wanted to say something to the sisters. You see more and more women now want to take hijab off because they cant get married or they think that no guy will marry them because they wear the hijab. Well my question to those women is that What kind of a guy are you looking for anyway. Humdulilah i am a practicing muslim and I want to marry a Hijabi that wears the hijab properly, not with half of her hair sticking out or her face coverd with layers of makeup. I want to marry a women that is modest. A women who hasnt had a boyfreind before. But if i want that then i have to do the same. I will never have a girl freind because i dont want the women who i marry to have a boy freind. The women i want to marry should have a hijab on and it should be her choice. Hijab is symbolic for a practicing muslimah. its obvious what a women really is from her actions and how she dresses. I am not a guy who would marry a hijabi and then look at women who wears a short skirt in the street. Allah (swt) has instructed me to lower my gaze and that inshallah i will do for the rest of my life. so whats the point? am i advertising my self no my point is that a religous muslim would only want to marry a hijabi that is practicing and i am not even religious, i am a normal muslim and i want to marry a hijabi so imagine what type of women religious men would like to marry. but if you decide to take your hijab off people who are religious and pray to allah would not look at you The only people that you will be able to attract and marry will be guys who have had previous relations or that flirt with women and do not follow the Quran and sunnah What does a normal everyday guy want? Beautiful body and face Would that relationship last forever? No Would everyday guy marry Hijabi? No. Why? because its old and only women from the 7th century would wear it. well thats what they think!!! btw everyday guy doesnt mean a average looking person it means everyperson that is anything but religious You have to realise the guys that would be attracted to you without your hijab are not meant for you There are many men who are willing only to marry a hijabi women You know why? because a Hijabi is a muslim that goes through alot of tests in her life She gets stares and frowns from the public speacially western people. But thats exactly what makes Hijabis so special. There amazing ability of patience and keeping themselves pure and religious. What differentiates a hijabi from a normal girl? A hijabi knows how to respect her self as well as others. She doesnt waste her beauty by showing of her body but she covers herself up and obeys Allah What did the Rasul salalahualihiwasalam say you should get married to?(to men) The Holy Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "A man marries a woman for four reasons: for her property, for her rank, for her beauty, and for her religion (and character). So marry the one who is best in the religion and character and prosper". ( Marriage quotation from Bukhari and Muslim) And ever since i saw this hadith ive only wanted to marry a hijabi Are only the women who wear hijab religious? cant you not wear hijab and still be religious? In my opinion No Why? Look at men, the religous ones have beard ryt but hold on a second The Quran says follow the messenger but it doesnt say anything about having a beard even after 911 men who take religion seriously and sincerely still keep there beards so my question to those women who say quran has only two or three verses about hijab is that you have obligation from Allah to wear the Hijab through Quran the most authentic book yet you say you can be religious and not wear the hijab even though it is prescribed for you? The men keep a beard and it doesnt make us look attractvie and its not even obligatory its Wajib. Yet there are many men with beards. Infact i have a beard and i am gonna keep it. Allah is most just and if you pray to Allah you shall get a partner that is religous and loves you for your hijab and your modesty and you personality and not you body and face asalamolaikum Btw Ehtisham in Arabic means `cover up` or modesty Asalamolaikum warahmatullah
just wanted to say something to the sisters.
You see more and more women now want to take hijab off because they cant get
married or they think that no guy will marry them because they wear the hijab.
Well my question to those women is that
What kind of a guy are you looking for anyway.
Humdulilah i am a practicing muslim and I want to marry a Hijabi that wears
the hijab properly, not with half of her hair sticking out or her face coverd
with layers of makeup. I want to marry a women that is modest. A women who hasnt had a boyfreind before.
But if i want that then i have to do the same. I will never have a girl freind because i dont want the women who i marry
to have a boy freind.
The women i want to marry should have a hijab on and it should be her choice. Hijab is symbolic for a practicing muslimah. its obvious what a women really is from her actions and how she dresses. I am not a guy who would marry a hijabi and then look at women who wears a short skirt in the street. Allah (swt) has instructed me to lower my gaze and that inshallah i will do for the rest of my life.

so whats the point?
am i advertising my self

no my point is that a religous muslim would only want to marry a hijabi that is practicing
and i am not even religious, i am a normal muslim and i want to marry a hijabi so imagine
what type of women religious men would like to marry.

but if you decide to take your hijab off people who are religious and pray to allah would not look at you
The only people that you will be able to attract and marry will be guys
who have had previous relations
or that flirt with women and do not follow the Quran and sunnah

What does a normal everyday guy want?

Beautiful body and face

Would that relationship last forever?

No

Would everyday guy marry Hijabi?
No. Why? because its old and only women from the 7th century would wear it.
well thats what they think!!!
btw everyday guy doesnt mean a average looking person it means everyperson that is anything but religious

You have to realise the guys that would be attracted to you without your hijab are not meant for you
There are many men who are willing only to marry a hijabi women
You know why?

because a Hijabi is a muslim that goes through alot of tests in her life
She gets stares and frowns from the public speacially western people. But thats exactly what makes
Hijabis so special.
There amazing ability of patience and keeping themselves pure
and religious.
What differentiates a hijabi from a normal girl?
A hijabi knows how to respect her self as well as others. She doesnt waste her beauty by showing of her
body but she covers herself up and obeys Allah

What did the Rasul salalahualihiwasalam say you should get married to?(to men)

The Holy Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

“A man marries a woman for four reasons: for her property, for her rank, for her beauty, and for her religion (and character). So marry the one who is best in the religion and character and prosper”.

( Marriage quotation from Bukhari and Muslim)

And ever since i saw this hadith ive only wanted to marry a hijabi

Are only the women who wear hijab religious? cant you not wear hijab and still be religious?

In my opinion
No

Why?
Look at men, the religous ones have beard ryt
but hold on a second
The Quran says follow the messenger but it doesnt say anything about having a beard
even after 911 men who take religion seriously and sincerely still keep there beards
so my question to those women who say quran has only two or three verses about hijab is
that you have obligation from Allah to wear the Hijab through Quran the most authentic book
yet you say you can be religious and not wear the hijab even though it is prescribed for you?
The men keep a beard and it doesnt make us look attractvie and its not even obligatory
its Wajib. Yet there are many men with beards. Infact i have a beard and i am gonna keep it.

Allah is most just and if you pray to Allah you shall get a partner
that is religous and loves you for your hijab and your modesty and you personality and not you body and face

asalamolaikum

Btw Ehtisham in Arabic means `cover up` or modesty

]]> By: ameena http://egyptiangumbo.com/taking-off-hijab-syndrome-99.htm/comment-page-1#comment-54281 ameena Fri, 26 Mar 2010 17:00:07 +0000 http://egyptiangumbo.com/?p=99#comment-54281 Salam alykium to all. I would like to make a comment regarding this issue. I believe that when people choose to take off there hijab they use 1001 excuses it to tak it off. Yes, it is there choice and they always say that it is between them and Allah. Matter of fact everysingle thing we do is between you and Allah. The attention that will be brought to them will be negative to all the people that believe in Hijab and the people that dont follow it or believe it will always welcoming to them and positive answer to them. We are here as slaves of Allah and that is the only reason that we are here. So,anyone can make what ever excuse they want and say it is no ones buisness and this might be true however,the people that really push you to keep it on or put it on is the people that really love you and fear what Allah says in the Quran. Many people will justify that this is not true by saying we cant judge them.When in reality inside themselves they say that because they dont believe in wearing hijab because they don t wear it. A statement will be given out loud or in secret to themselves about a person that has taken it off. I like to conclude and say... sisters be real to yourselves before you make a decision of putting it on or taken off.Because even if you see it or not you are not respecting ALLAH........And in the day of judgement your excues will be heard however you will still be punished because we disobeyed. salam alykium Salam alykium to all. I would like to make a comment regarding this issue. I believe that when people choose to take off there hijab they use 1001 excuses it to tak it off. Yes, it is there choice and they always say that it is between them and Allah. Matter of fact everysingle thing we do is between you and Allah. The attention that will be brought to them will be negative to all the people that believe in Hijab and the people that dont follow it or believe it will always welcoming to them and positive answer to them. We are here as slaves of Allah and that is the only reason that we are here. So,anyone can make what ever excuse they want and say it is no ones buisness and this might be true however,the people that really push you to keep it on or put it on is the people that really love you and fear what Allah says in the Quran. Many people will justify that this is not true by saying we cant judge them.When in reality inside themselves they say that because they dont believe in wearing hijab because they don t wear it. A statement will be given out loud or in secret to themselves about a person that has taken it off. I like to conclude and say… sisters be real to yourselves before you make a decision of putting it on or taken off.Because even if you see it or not you are not respecting ALLAH……..And in the day of judgement your excues will be heard however you will still be punished because we disobeyed.

salam alykium

]]> By: Dwana Heckers http://egyptiangumbo.com/taking-off-hijab-syndrome-99.htm/comment-page-1#comment-51318 Dwana Heckers Wed, 10 Mar 2010 11:36:17 +0000 http://egyptiangumbo.com/?p=99#comment-51318 Been researching for web pages for such stuff , thanks Been researching for web pages for such stuff , thanks

]]> By: Alima http://egyptiangumbo.com/taking-off-hijab-syndrome-99.htm/comment-page-1#comment-38004 Alima Fri, 11 Dec 2009 19:31:47 +0000 http://egyptiangumbo.com/?p=99#comment-38004 Salaam 'alaykum, @ Max First pray your well inshaAllah. I just wanted to say, if your taking off your hijaab because you wore it for the wrong intentions, then why not correct your intention now and keep the hijaab on, as it pleasing to Allah and that's the ONLY reason your wearing it. Isn't this better? Also, keeping in mind the hijaab is only in front of non-mahrem guys, so you don't have to wear it at home or in front of the girls anyway. Looking at it in a deeper sense, you can see this as a test and passing it as your point B, your step to paradise, it's in view and it depends if your willing to be patience get that reward from Allah 'azza wa jal. And Allah knows Best. Salaam ‘alaykum,

@ Max

First pray your well inshaAllah. I just wanted to say, if your taking off your hijaab because you wore it for the wrong intentions, then why not correct your intention now and keep the hijaab on, as it pleasing to Allah and that’s the ONLY reason your wearing it.

Isn’t this better? Also, keeping in mind the hijaab is only in front of non-mahrem guys, so you don’t have to wear it at home or in front of the girls anyway.

Looking at it in a deeper sense, you can see this as a test and passing it as your point B, your step to paradise, it’s in view and it depends if your willing to be patience get that reward from Allah ‘azza wa jal.

And Allah knows Best.

]]> By: volley http://egyptiangumbo.com/taking-off-hijab-syndrome-99.htm/comment-page-1#comment-37720 volley Wed, 09 Dec 2009 04:00:22 +0000 http://egyptiangumbo.com/?p=99#comment-37720 wearing the scarf can make us complete outcasts at times, and it really hurts when people give us mean stares, or when we graduate with a qualified degree sometimes its hard to get a job. But we have to remember this world is temporary, All the hardships that we go through are good deeds for the Hereafter, in addition they help us build our patience. By wearing the scarf and showing others that we are sincere and loving people, we give them the real side of what Islam is about. If we just blend it with the crowd then they will only receive information about us from the media. Stay strong and may God ease your hardships :) wearing the scarf can make us complete outcasts at times, and it really hurts when people give us mean stares, or when we graduate with a qualified degree sometimes its hard to get a job. But we have to remember this world is temporary, All the hardships that we go through are good deeds for the Hereafter, in addition they help us build our patience. By wearing the scarf and showing others that we are sincere and loving people, we give them the real side of what Islam is about. If we just blend it with the crowd then they will only receive information about us from the media. Stay strong and may God ease your hardships :)

]]> By: max http://egyptiangumbo.com/taking-off-hijab-syndrome-99.htm/comment-page-1#comment-35980 max Tue, 17 Nov 2009 20:59:19 +0000 http://egyptiangumbo.com/?p=99#comment-35980 ive been wearing hijab for 6 years know and im planning to take it off due it wasnt for the rigth intentions and also im not into it i asked my relignn am i going to be not muslim if i took it of she said no u will have it as a sin but still u will be a muslim so im just afraid of the reaction of people family firneds but still im planning to take it off ive been wearing hijab for 6 years know and im planning to take it off due it wasnt for the rigth intentions and also im not into it i asked my relignn am i going to be not muslim if i took it of she said no u will have it as a sin but still u will be a muslim so im just afraid of the reaction of people family firneds but still im planning to take it off

]]> By: omax http://egyptiangumbo.com/taking-off-hijab-syndrome-99.htm/comment-page-1#comment-35774 omax Sun, 15 Nov 2009 18:00:47 +0000 http://egyptiangumbo.com/?p=99#comment-35774 I apologise if i am wrong somewhere I apologise if i am wrong somewhere

]]> By: omax http://egyptiangumbo.com/taking-off-hijab-syndrome-99.htm/comment-page-1#comment-35773 omax Sun, 15 Nov 2009 17:59:57 +0000 http://egyptiangumbo.com/?p=99#comment-35773 Salam Alekum,........... I think we should ponder upon the massage of Allah i.e Al-Quran Al Karim. Consider my point as , Hijab is the physical (infrastruture) or practical of the order of Allah SWT and willingness to be modest, poius & righteous is the soul of and the main thing. So we should Ponder the Word of Allah SWT. And Inshaallah He will solve all of our problum provided we show consistency and devotion. May Allah Bless all Muslims in the world. Remember me in your Dua's Wassalam Salam Alekum,………..
I think we should ponder upon the massage of Allah i.e Al-Quran Al Karim. Consider my point as , Hijab is the physical (infrastruture) or practical of the order of Allah SWT and willingness to be modest, poius & righteous is the soul of and the main thing. So we should Ponder the Word of Allah SWT. And Inshaallah He will solve all of our problum provided we show consistency and devotion.
May Allah Bless all Muslims in the world. Remember me in your Dua’s
Wassalam

]]> By: neefforguidance http://egyptiangumbo.com/taking-off-hijab-syndrome-99.htm/comment-page-1#comment-34721 neefforguidance Wed, 04 Nov 2009 21:25:25 +0000 http://egyptiangumbo.com/?p=99#comment-34721 F i totally agree with you but there is a great element of judgement like you said because of media information. However, sometimes it get really hard having to explain yourself to people. F i totally agree with you but there is a great element of judgement like you said because of media information. However, sometimes it get really hard having to explain yourself to people.

]]> By: F http://egyptiangumbo.com/taking-off-hijab-syndrome-99.htm/comment-page-1#comment-34720 F Wed, 04 Nov 2009 21:14:34 +0000 http://egyptiangumbo.com/?p=99#comment-34720 Salaam, I also live in Canada and I see many girls wearing the Hijaab in university, work, high school, etc....Honestly what i noticed is if people had sincere faith in Allah and RESPECT themselves...people will respect you...trust me on that... Sometimes when we think that "westerners" are judgin us or looking at us differently or when they say somethin that sounds rude... in reality they're just curious and they dont know how to go about and address it. Do you blame them? Look at what they are fed by the media on a daily basis...the "us vs. them" mentality...we look odd, we look bizarre...granted...but it is your job to get rid of the misconceptions. Smile, dont look down, be happy, for goodness sakes! i been livin here for over 20 yrs and it's just our weakness that is preventing us from reaching out to them... You would be surprised how enlightened and happy they would get if u had a small conversation with them... IF someone says..."so why do u wear that thing on your head?"...Look at the situation.....sometimes they have nothing better to say....n sometimes they dont even care...they juss wanna talk to you.....so try to figure out what they're gettin at....and tailor your answer.,...say somethin like..."well...to understand that lemme juss tell u the basics of my faith...etc..." Dont say it's a "scarf, or it's a hijaab." Because quite frankly it doesnt matter to them! They dont care what it is....etc.... I hope my point is clear....and i apologize if my tone sounds aggressive! Dont mean that at all..... PS: pardon me for my grammatical mistakes... Salaam,

I also live in Canada and I see many girls wearing the Hijaab in university, work, high school, etc….Honestly what i noticed is if people had sincere faith in Allah and RESPECT themselves…people will respect you…trust me on that…

Sometimes when we think that “westerners” are judgin us or looking at us differently or when they say somethin that sounds rude… in reality they’re just curious and they dont know how to go about and address it. Do you blame them?

Look at what they are fed by the media on a daily basis…the “us vs. them” mentality…we look odd, we look bizarre…granted…but it is your job to get rid of the misconceptions. Smile, dont look down, be happy, for goodness sakes! i been livin here for over 20 yrs and it’s just our weakness that is preventing us from reaching out to them…

You would be surprised how enlightened and happy they would get if u had a small conversation with them…

IF someone says…”so why do u wear that thing on your head?”…Look at the situation…..sometimes they have nothing better to say….n sometimes they dont even care…they juss wanna talk to you…..so try to figure out what they’re gettin at….and tailor your answer.,…say somethin like…”well…to understand that lemme juss tell u the basics of my faith…etc…” Dont say it’s a “scarf, or it’s a hijaab.” Because quite frankly it doesnt matter to them! They dont care what it is….etc….

I hope my point is clear….and i apologize if my tone sounds aggressive! Dont mean that at all…..

PS: pardon me for my grammatical mistakes…

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