When Motherly Instincts Kick In
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Wanting to steal someone else’s baby may not seem like normal to the average guy; OK fine, the average person. And sure, we don’t actually steal them, but this “thing” is what makes us talk baby talk at any Johnson and Johnson or Pampers commercial we see on TV. That’s right, it’s those motherly instincts that overtake us women and make us reduced to a puddle around children.
I can’t help it. I see a cute baby and I’m melted. I want kids.
But it’s the other motherly instincts that make me terrified of bringing a child into this world.
I’m not talking pangs of birth (although one of the scariest thoughts). I’m talking raising a kid, in America — actually, the world.
There is so much filth out there, much more than when we were growing up. And there has been a lot of filth that went around with generation X. Elementary kids know about sex, drugs and curse words. It seems like what used to be sheltered until high school, is now, sheltered until 3rd grade.
They are growing up in a society where being Gay is normal and culturally accepted, and anyone to speak otherwise is a hate monger.
When I was working for the Reveille, we had this columnist who decided to write a story about why America should stand together against homosexuality. The guy was right on point. However, I don’t think there has ever been a column that got more hate mail, more threats, and more responses in the history of the Reveille. Not even I, with my record hundreds of hate comments a week, had that much of a backlash against me.
The sacredness of the institution of marriage is questioned. After all, why get married when you have all the perks of marriage without any of the responsibility? Producing illegitimate children is a fashion these days, the latest accessory.
Then comes the issue of what am I going to do with my kids and school? Islamic schools, I hope that they can come up to par on the education level one of these days. And there is no way I’m sending my kids to public school, and then again I can only home school up to a certain level.
I hear many times people say, “I’m going to take my kids and live overseas.” Unless you live in Saudi, I can assure you, globalization has taken its course. What happens a lot of the times, is that the parents think their kids are now “safe” give them more freedom, and in the end the kids do much worse things “back home” than they do here.
Wallahul musta’an.
I want my cute, cuddly baby. But what’s a mother to do?
Surely, we can find some comfort in knowing that Allah protects and takes care of the children of the righteous, but have we really attained righteousness?
Scary thought…
Hala Says: 11.03.09 at 10:33 am
Shirien! I was thinking the exact same thing TODAY on my commute home from school. Wow. From the wanting cute cuddly kids
, to worrying about the fitan they may face in this time.
Allah knows best, I think I would opt for home schooling (if feasible), see how that works out, and make lots and lots of du’a for guidance! Allahul musta’an, raising kids is no easy feat.
Jazaki Allah khayr for the thought provoking post- I’m still thinking about it.
Hala Says: 11.03.09 at 10:35 am
and where’s the diversity?
http://www.engagements.ca/images/babies.jpg
shirien Says: 11.03.09 at 10:39 am
haha Subhanallah that’s very weird that you were thinking the same thing!
I think homeschooling is the best option, but im completely afraid of not being organized enough to have my kids sit down for however many hours and teach them from my lesson plans. I feel like it’s the best option, but I’m afraid at perhaps failing at being a teacher?
oh c’mon! do you not see the white, baby with the Asian baby! lool besides, my nephew is 100% egyptian and he looks like a white boy with blond hair and blue eyes mashaallah.
That white baby could be black you dont know!
j/j
bintwadee3 Says: 12.03.09 at 3:01 pm
Dude Shirien. Sub7anAllaah everything I’m thinking about a certain issue, you pot something related to it very soon afterward. I just wanted to tell you that I love you (for the sake of Allaah and just cause you’re too cool =P). Didnt get a chance to read except the first few lines, its 3 am. I’ll be back though, insha’Allaah.
P.S. I don’t see any Divine Speech classes being held in LA. You should travel to Houston for it (I am insha’Allaah).
Think it over and we’ll hook you up with a place to stay.
Layla Says: 12.03.09 at 11:56 pm
I know what you mean about the motherly instincts, they’ve kicked in in the past year.
Saudi Arabia is not better than anywhere else. Homosexuality, porn, etc are rampant under the surface.
In 99% of the cases I’ve seen where the parents are too restrictive, the kids go wild after high school or when the parents don’t know. Whereas instilling into your children good values and being a good example, will inshAllah have them bettering themselves.
shirien Says: 13.03.09 at 2:20 am
Bintwadee3,
May the one who’s sake you love me love you!
The funny thing is that I make the schedules, then I forget to schedule one for LA 
I think i’ll have to put LA on the waiting list lol.
In all honesty, I’m REALLY considering going to the class in houston. But that would depend on if I can gather a few sisters to come along with me. Especially since Houston is only 4 hour drive from here.
I’d need a GPS though
I FREAK OUT when I get lost driving, like a nervous break down lol. That happened last time in houston and also in NY. Good (scary) times 
If I go I definitely want to see you there though!
Layla,
Saudi is definitely not free from fitnah, but like you said it’s a little bit more under the rug. So it’s not like if you turn on the TV, you’ll see soft porn like you do here!
But yeah parents who are really strict with their kids and dont teach them why they are protecting them the way they are, often rebel the second they get some freedom.
You should see when Saudis come to Egypt, it’s all about alcohol and belly dancing for them.
wallahul must’an..
p.s. I so want one of those kids in the pictures above lol
hk Says: 13.03.09 at 9:17 am
give and surround them with real role models and they’ll b fine, inshaAllah… we become the people we imitate.
kid Says: 13.03.09 at 11:39 am
Shirien, maybe you should start with one of these babies. No need to worry about the baby being exposed to horrible things like REALITY.
http://www.channel4.com/video/my-fake-baby/series-1/episode-1/living-doll_p_1.html
shirien Says: 13.03.09 at 11:44 am
YA MAMA!
THOSE BABIES FREAK ME OUT! lol
I saw something like this a long time ago on Dr. Phil (dont ask)…
As Dr. Phil would say, “Buuud, I’m going to get you some help”
lol Thanks for the alternative though, I’ll think it over?
p.s. that was especially weird when the head of the doll went on the body. freaky.
bintwadee3 Says: 20.03.09 at 9:15 am
“have we really attained righteousness?”
That is the million dollar question though, isn’t it? And seeing as we will never know for sure, then that should serve as our inspiration. Increasing ourselves in knowledge does not only affect us, but affects the people around us as well. The more knowledge we attain, the better our ties will be with those around us (as long as the 3ilm is transferred to 3amal – i.e. is displayed through our actions).
May Allaah 3azza wa Jal make us of the righteous women, and make our children of the righteous. Ameen.
But hey, you have my email. If you’re up to it, just let me know and we’ll hook you (and your friends) up with a place to stay. Hosna’s hospitality is unbeatable. Us gals have a whole house to ourselves
. Make istikhaara, tie your camel (as in sign up and pay) and prepare some extremely embarrassing, painfully humiliating home stories lol. They’ll all come out 
bintwadee3 Says: 20.03.09 at 9:16 am
My
smiley didnt work 
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bintwadee3 Says: 20.03.09 at 9:17 am
Oh, now my
didnt work. I wonder, is it the period at the end of the sentence? I’ll soon find out.
HAHHAHA, last one for now, I promise.
shirien Says: 21.03.09 at 2:07 am
lol the mystery behind the smiley. hmm.
I’m definitely trying to make plans to go inshaAllah. I have a sister who is ready to come with me. Just looking for 1 or 2 more.
One of my friends just moved to houston, so alhamdulillah she offered to host us. mashaAllah.
If I finalize these plans, I’ll definitely let you know and we can meet up
bintwadee3 Says: 26.03.09 at 2:55 pm
Awesome. You know where to find me
lol
Alima Says: 19.10.09 at 9:09 pm
Salaam,
I was checking out my stumble upon and this came up… Long time, Eygptian Gumbo, long time!
- Shirien, you can have my baby brother, infact I can hear him screaming right now, total cuteness mashaAllaah. Seriously, he looks like one of the those baby’s (if you take the picture correctly lol)
I agree with the sentiments though. May Allaah ‘azza wa jal protect our kids. Though inshaAllaah with the muslim youth of today and culture the practicing crowd have bought about, alhamdulillah, I hope and pray their will be some change.
Just have to deal with the other end of the sphere, of those who have bought up a crazier culture and that is to go further away from Islam.
Oh fun times as we grow up, fun times indeed… of change and better things inshaAllaah
shirien Says: 21.10.09 at 10:55 am
Salam Alima! long time indeed! I’d be glad to take your little brother
lol inshaAllah I’ll be making a new post very soon. I’ve been MIA, but 2.0 will come back with bigger things inshaAllah.